Ep #26: Want to Change Your Thoughts? Do This…

Strong as a Working Mom with Carrie Holland | Want to Change Your Thoughts? Do This…
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I used to think that my thoughts were not in my control. I believed they just happened, and I had to accept them for what they were, that I was a passive conduit for whatever sentences popped up in my head. But now I know better, and as a result, I do better.

Once I realized and understood that my thoughts create my feelings and those feelings would lead me to take action and make my own results happen, my world exploded in the best way possible. If you want to make great things happen for yourself, you have to commit to letting go of your old, unhelpful thoughts in exchange for newer, more powerful thoughts, and this week, I’m showing you how.

In this episode, I’m showing you how to practice your thinking, what that actually means, why it is essential if you want to change your thoughts, and what it looks like for real. I’m showing you why practicing your thinking is one of the most important steps to making amazing things happen for yourself and sharing some ideas and tools you can use immediately to start practicing your thinking.

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What You Will Discover:

  • How to become aware of the limiting beliefs your brain is offering you.
  • Some examples from my own life where I have changed my thoughts, and how I did it.
  • Why negative thoughts don’t just fizzle out because you want them to.
  • How to show yourself what else might be possible.
  • Some questions to ask yourself when your brain is offering you thoughts that don’t serve you.
  • How to commit to letting go of your old, unhelpful thoughts.
  • What you can do when you notice yourself getting carried away in negative thought patterns.

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You are listening to the Strong as a Working Mom podcast, Episode #26. If you want to get really good at thinking, you have to practice it.

If that sounds a little woo, let me break it down for you.

Welcome to the Strong as a Working Mom podcast. If you’re balancing career, family, wellness, and some days sanity, you are in the right place. This is where high achieving, busy working moms get the tools they need to eat, move, and think. I’m your host, physician, personal trainer and Certified Life Coach Carrie Holland. Let’s do this.

Hey, how are you? What’s new, what’s good? So, what’s good here, is that today, we are going to talk about practicing your thinking and dissect what that actually means, and what it really looks like for real. Okay, so here’s why. Practicing your thinking is one of the first, and truthfully, most crucial steps to making big new cool things happen for yourself. And I know that is a lofty, bold statement to make, but it’s true.

In order to create change in your life, whether that’s to start exercising, eat in a way that makes you feel better, find a new job, start a passion project, change a relationship, start a business, really anything, it starts by changing your thoughts. How do you actually do this? How do you change your thoughts? Okay, so how do you do anything new and get good at it?

If you were to ask my kids this question, they would most definitely roll their eyes and say, “You practice,” with the annoyed tone to boot. And though they might be rolling their eyes, I am secretly high-fiving myself, because it means they’re actually hearing me and my husband. While they are only eight and nine, my hope is that someday they will appreciate all this mind management and growth mindset talk that happens at home, even if they think we are totally crazy, right now. So yeah, in order to get better at anything, you learn the skills, and then you go and try them, you practice.

So, think about it, how do you get better at French? You don’t just read a book about it and suddenly know the language. You have to spit out the words and fumble with the accent, and sound silly and be corrected. Speaking from experience, here. How do you get better at swimming? You jump in the cold water and flounder until you figure out your freestyle. You don’t learn how to swim, by maybe reading a book. And, the same is true for practicing your thinking.

Remember, you get good at what you practice. And what this means, is that you can absolutely get very good at thinking in a way that supports you, and compels you to take action, to create amazing results for yourself. If you have negative thoughts and limiting self-beliefs that are getting you nowhere, it’s time to shake that up.

Do not just accept those negative thoughts as the truth. They are not fact, they are not the news, okay? Those negative thoughts are lies that your brain is telling you. They are lies that are ultimately keeping you from growing and evolving. And, you are not resigned to be stuck with these unhelpful thought patterns for the rest of your life.

But here’s the thing, you can’t simply will them to go away. Negative thoughts, they don’t just fizzle out because you want them to. This stuff takes legit work. It takes practice. It takes messing up and trying, repeatedly. But in order to change your thoughts, you practice your thinking.

Okay, so here’s something to consider, and maybe you do this, too. Maybe, I’m not the only one who thought this way, but I used to think that my thoughts were not in my control. I used to believe that thoughts just happened, and I had to accept them as they were. I was basically the passive conduit for whatever sentences popped up in my head.

But now, I know better. And because of that, I do better for myself. So, as an example, even just a few weeks ago, I was headed to a meeting and had my route planned out. I worked it backwards, to know when I needed to leave the house. Had the location plugged into my phone. Siri told me when it was time to leave in the morning, and I left when she told me to.

But what my phone, and what Siri did not know, was that the exact highway I was supposed to be taking, had closed down like, literally minutes before I was supposed to be on it. I saw the trucks putting up the cones on the road I was supposed to be driving on.

So, to make it worse, while taking the most roundabout route ever, once I got off that highway, I then got stuck behind a tractor, on a one-lane road in the middle of nowhere. And these snafus meant, basically I was in traffic for about an hour longer than I expected, which resulted in me missing the majority of the event that I was driving to.

I could have chosen to let this totally ruin my day. I could have decided the world is just against me. It’s the worst day ever, I am not meant to go to this event. And I could have hung it up and gone home, and been in a bad mood all day because my morning did not turn out as planned. And in full transparency, a previous version of me probably would have done that.

But that would have been giving my authority up to the Michigan Department of Transportation, and why in the world would I do that? So instead, I laughed. Really, there was nothing else to do about it. And getting stuck behind that tractor made it even more ridiculous, which literally made me laugh even more.

So, I decided that I will get there; I want to get there. I will listen to whatever part of the speeches are left to hear. And then, I will go home and get back to work, just as I intended. I chose how to think about the situation. And I decided, this is okay, and my day is fine. And you know what? The day was totally fine. I didn’t walk around with a storm cloud over my head. I got on with it. And it was a normal workday, despite the stinky commute.

This was possible because I practice my thinking. But let me be clear, because I was totally skeptical. And if you are, too, let me hit this head-on. Even when I say those words, changing your thoughts and practicing your thinking, what do you think when you hear that? Do you think of mantras, and sunshine, and sugary, sweet 90’s TV shows like Full House, or am I the only one?

I’m being totally honest here, because when I was first introduced to the concept of practicing thinking, it all sounded pretty abstract and way too mushy squishy, for me. The idea behind choosing your thoughts and practicing your thinking, sounded complicated and fuzzy and not super practical.

And that’s what I thought for a long, long time. I thought I was way too sarcastic and said too many four-letter words, to take part in practicing my thinking. Until I realized, that my glass half-empty approach was just not working. My stance of always expecting the worst, so that I wouldn’t be disappointed, that only took me so far.

Ultimately, I got sick of myself and the loads of negative thoughts I was playing in my brain, because I was making myself miserable. So, that’s when I started digging; I went to therapy, I got coached, I read endless self-help books, and still am. And once I realized and understood that my thoughts create my feelings, and those feelings would lead me to take action and make my own results happen.

Once I really and truly understood this, my world exploded in the best way possible. And what this means, is a lot of things. A rough morning commute does not have to ruin your day. That phone call with your dad, it does not have to send you back to feeling like a powerless 13-year-old. An argument with your partner does not mean that you are unlovable, and that you are going to be abandoned.

But I get it, I’ve been there. I thought, practicing thinking was a nice idea for people who burned incense and meditated. And, that was not me. So, here’s a really important thing to know. And this applies whether you burn incense, read self-help books, swear like a sailor, or consider yourself an average Joe.

When I say this, it may sound really obvious, but here it is: Your thoughts are not outside of you. Your thoughts do not just appear out of nowhere. You don’t just have thoughts; you choose them, you create them. Yes, I know that sounds kind of strange. But you create your thoughts with your insanely powerful brain.

You are responsible for your thoughts. You control them. And that last one, that’s key; you control your thoughts, not the other way around. Okay? Please, really let that idea sink in. And honestly, that is the best news ever. Because that’s where you have the most power.

You are 100% capable of choosing and controlling your thoughts, regardless of what happens to you. You can also think of it this way; your brain is going to think, whether you control it or not. Your brain is going to offer you thoughts in the form of sentences, all day long. Do you want your brain to offer up any old thought, especially the negative ones?

Or, do you want to manage your mind, and purposely choose thoughts that ultimately compel you to create really awesome results in your life. So, I know what I choose, I choose to practice my thinking. I choose not to be at the whim of my brain and the negative thoughts that it has been barfing all over me for decades.

So instead, I choose to manage my brain, manage my thoughts. And, I do it very intentionally. I can grow up and be the adult that I want to be, in this world. And now that I really understand it and practice it, I see the difference it can make. There’s nothing woo or mushy squishy about this; it is straight-up empowering.

And now, I get to help other people do this, as my full-time gig. And this is one of the many reasons that I believe I have the best job ever, as a coach. So, my goal today, is to take something that seems a little nebulous, something that seems a little fuzzy, and turn it into something that is more than just words.

I want you to walk away from this episode with visuals, ideas, and tools that you can use immediately to start practicing your thinking. Okay, so I’ve said it before, and I want to make it abundantly clear from the outset: Your thoughts are sentences. Those sentences are the window into how your brain works.

So, when I’m in a coaching session and a client tells me, “I have too much to do. I don’t have time to exercise,” those are her sentences. Those are the limiting beliefs her brain is offering her, and she’s verbalized it to me. And, this is why I really love listening to other people’s sentences. Because they truly believe that the words you choose are the representation of what you believe about yourself.

Think about it, what is a belief? A belief is your most practiced thought. So, when you tell me, “I have too much to do, and I don’t have time to exercise,” you’re telling me what sentences have been playing on repeat in your head, that have become your beliefs.

But if you have beliefs that are not serving you, if you have beliefs that are keeping you totally stagnant, if you have beliefs that are preventing you from growing and evolving into your next best self, we got to change that up. And the first step in that process, is to be aware of it. Yes, awareness.

It means you pay attention. You make a conscious choice that you’re going to listen to yourself, and really hear what you’re thinking and saying. This is coming off autopilot. I like visuals, and I’ve shared this before. When I think of creating awareness around my thoughts, I think of Jiminy Cricket sitting on your shoulder with a direct visual to your brain. You are observing your sentences. It also means that you slow down.

Sometimes, your brain is firing so many thoughts, you’re not in tune enough to really make sense of them. But all of a sudden, you feel like you’re in the worst mood ever. Has ever happened to you, for whatever reason, you’re going about your day but you notice that you feel irritated, or angry, or anxious?

If you were to really slow down and dig through your sentences, you’d probably land on the thoughts that are making you feel that way. And it may be something like, “This day is going too fast. I’m not getting as much done as I set out to do. I have too many emails to send. I don’t have time to write this podcast.” I’m using some of my own examples, here. So, whatever it is, drill it down. Slow down, look at your brain and see what sentences, what thoughts, are coming up.

And here’s the thing, don’t just stop at the surface level, be willing to go and do a deeper dive. So, when I feel myself get stressed out and frustrated, often, the first thing that comes up for me is, “I don’t have enough time.” And maybe, some of you feel that way.

But from there, if I’m willing to dig a little deeper, I’ll ask myself; what’s really going on here? I’ve done this, and the next thought I’ll land on is, “I’ve created too many tasks for myself.” I’ll keep going, and land on, “I need to do everything now, and do it perfectly, in order to get my coaching business where I want it to be.”

And that, that last sentence, is a very, very different one than, I don’t have enough time. But now, I know what’s really going on. And, I know what thought is really messing me up.

All right, so here’s the next step. And this one is hard, but it’s so useful. So now, you ask questions about your thoughts. Meaning, instead of beating yourself up about the negative sentences you’re saying to yourself, instead, you ask yourself curious questions.

Being curious, is a much kinder approach to changing your thoughts, than getting down on yourself. Remember, you can’t beat yourself up into your next best version. So instead, get curious and ask; is this thought really true? Is it really true that I have to do everything? Meaning social media, webinars, newsletters, videos, all of it.

Is it really true that I have to do all of this, and I have to do it perfectly? No, it’s not true. That’s just what I’ve been telling myself on repeat, for who knows how long? And if you want another take on that question, I learned this one.

When I read Adam Grant’s book, Think Again; amazing book, please check it out. But he asked this question; is there any evidence that the opposite might be true? Yes, there is no rule that in order to run a coaching business, I have to create videos, webinars, newsletters, all at once. I don’t have to do it all, right now, and I don’t have to do it perfectly.

That’s most definitely, my perfectionism and fear of failure talking, right there. And it was only when I started asking myself if the opposite might be true, that I got somewhere. I really love that question. Try it out for yourself. I will be the first to admit, it feels weird to ask this of yourself, I’m literally asking you to prove yourself wrong.

But I’m doing it with good reason. We tell ourselves all kinds of negative sentences. You have likely, created some stories in your head that just are not true. Things like, you will never be good enough. You don’t have what it takes to be successful. You can’t run a business. You can’t change your career. You can’t lose the weight, or exercise. You can’t change your life, you’re stuck.

Those are some of the sentences that I’ve heard from you. And, those are all sentences. And again, those sentences, those are the verbal representation of your beliefs about yourself. And if you’ve said any of these to yourself, you know it does not feel good. It generally does not compel you to take action to move you forward.

So, what if instead, you questioned it? Here’s another example; what if instead of saying, “I can’t fit exercise into my life,” instead, you ask if there’s any evidence that the opposite might be true? So, can you write out your exercise plan on a calendar? Yes. Can you get up 20 minutes earlier than you normally do, three days per week? Yes. Can you do a workout; a bodyweight squats, lunges and pushups? Yes. So, there it is.

You just took your thought, I can’t fit exercise into my life, and turned it upside down. You disputed it, and then you offered evidence that the opposite might be true. This is powerful stuff, and if you do nothing else with the thoughts that are tripping you up, I encourage you to try this one out; it is a game changer.

I think of it as calling yourself out, but I don’t think of calling yourself out as a negative thing. It’s simply showing yourself what else might be possible. But in order to do this, you have to be willing to look for it. You have to be willing to be wrong about yourself. And, that feels counterintuitive. But it is also a really powerful tool.

So, another question to ask yourself, when your brain is offering you thoughts that don’t help you; is this thought moving me forward? Or, is it helpful? How do you know if a thought is moving you forward? Here, we go look at the actions you are taking.

As an example, when you think to yourself, “It is impossible for me to change my schedule so I can exercise,” what happens? My guess, is that ultimately, your schedule doesn’t change. Remember, whatever you think your brain is going to help you find evidence to prove correct. So, if you repeatedly tell yourself, “There is no way I can change my schedule to make time to exercise,” you won’t.

You won’t get into the weeds of your day-to-day. You won’t look at how much time you spend on Facebook. You won’t look at what time you go to bed at night, or get up in the morning. Instead, when you think, it is impossible for me to change my schedule to exercise, you will simply not change your schedule.

And you will find all the reasons that it is impossible to change your routine, and nothing happens. And at the end of the day, I would argue that thinking that thought does not move you forward at all; it is most definitely not helpful.

Okay, so to review so far; you’ve paid attention, you’ve slowed yourself down enough to identify the surface level thought, then you did the deep dive to get past the surface thought to what is really at play, then you asked questions. First, you ask if the thought is really true, or even better, you looked for evidence that the opposite might be true. And then, you ask if the thought you’re currently thinking is moving you forward and helping you.

Now, you decide to practice thinking something else. Okay, so this is where it gets really interesting. Notice my word choice here, I say it often; I say it to clients, and they’re gonna spell it out right here. When you practice your thinking, you are deciding to believe a thought that serves you better.

So, I’m going to use myself as an example. When I was building my coaching practice, I had zero experience owning a business; zero. And there were many times when I would get very down on myself, and frankly, freak myself out that I didn’t know what I was doing. There was no way I could have an LLC, or turn myself into a .com. And no way in stink, I could charge people for the work that I was doing.

As you can imagine, those thoughts; one, were not true. And two, they were not moving me forward, at all. So, I decided to choose a new thought. Instead of thinking, “There is no way I can own my own business,” I decided to believe, “I can learn the skills I need to run a business. I can do this. I can be as successful as when I was practicing clinical medicine.” And, those were the sentences I chose to believe.

In fact, I still tell myself those sentences whenever I feel myself doubting my work; I’m onto myself. And, I call myself out when I start to notice those negative thoughts creep up. So, I want to give you some practical tools for how to do this. Because in full transparency, this is where I got really tripped up.

First, when you start to notice yourself going down a negative thought spiral, relax, it means you’re human. I’m going to offer something I learned recently, that has been such a mind-blowing concept. It was in the book soundtracks, by Jon Acuff, and if you have not read his book yet, do yourself a favor and read it as soon as possible. It is absolutely amazing and really funny.

But in the book, he explained that often, we want to flip a switch with our thoughts. Meaning, we want to turn off the negative thought, “I can’t run a business,” and turn on the thought, “I’m a rockstar CEO of my company,” like an on off switch. But it doesn’t work that way. Your brain does not work that way. It would be so nice if it did, though.

But you can’t simply turn off a negative thought. Our brains are lazy, but they are powerful. And as nice as it would be to simply turn off the negative thoughts that keep you stuck; you are human, and you have a human brain. And your brain will give you old, worn out, well-practiced thoughts, even if they don’t help you.

But instead of trying to turn off those negative thoughts, which you can’t do, think of a volume dial and instead, turn down the volume. You are turning down the volume on the negative thoughts running in your brain, and turning up the volume on the thoughts that help you and move forward. It’s a dial; it’s not an on-off switch.

Meaning, those negative thoughts, they are still going to creep up. They’re going to be sneaky and show up when things get hard or stressful. Those negative thoughts, might try to drown out the more positive thoughts you’re trying to practice. But you can allow them, note their presence, and turn up the volume on the thoughts that serve you better.

They can coexist, but you’re simply choosing to listen to the thoughts with louder volume, the positive ones. I love this. So, for someone who loves visuals the way I do, it’s absolutely singing to me; so please, read his book. So, very good.

And now, here is where it gets back to practice. The more you do this, the more you catch yourself in the middle of a negative thought that does not serve you. The easier it gets to turn the dial. The easier it gets to turn down the volume on the negative thoughts, and turn up the volume on the more helpful ones.

Here’s another step in this process that I want to share. One of the things I do, when I noticed myself getting carried away in negative thought patterns, is this. I’ve shared it with my clients, they’ve definitely seen me do it in zoom calls. I give myself a timeout. I literally make a timeout signal with my hand.

In full transparency, I don’t always do this in public, though I may have done it once or twice at Target. And hopefully, nobody noticed. But in addition to the timeout, the other thing I do, is I tell myself this sentence, “You don’t think that way anymore, Carrie. You don’t think that way anymore.” So, that is my stopcatch. It’s simple. It’s gentle, but firm.

I have put this into practice many, many times, after I’ve gotten off the phone with my dad, after an argument with my husband, after I’ve gone off the handle with my kids, after a potential client says, “No, thank you.” Those are some of the more common times I catch myself going down a negative thought spiral. And, that’s when I put this into practice.

I catch myself. I give myself the timeout. And I tell myself, “You don’t think that way anymore.” That, most definitely, takes me off autopilot, and alerts me to turn down the volume on all of the negative sentences scrolling through my brain.

So, this one was a huge pivot point for me. If you like it, you can borrow it; try it out for yourself. “You don’t think that way anymore,” or find your own stopcatch. In Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass series, I can’t remember which book this came from anymore, because I’ve read her books so many times. She shared that her stopcatch was, “Here we go again.”

Whatever it is for you, find it. Find some way of waking yourself up off autopilot. And again, in case you need the reminder, you’re doing this from a place of kindness, you cannot beat yourself up and do better, right? If you feel yourself going down a negative thought loop, you’re okay, you can pull yourself out. But you don’t have to be mean about it. You also don’t have to be all mushy about it, either. Find a way that is believable to you.

I have listened to a number of books and podcasts on this very subject, and I am just not the type of person who is going to be like, “Alright, love. What’s going on in that sweet brain of yours?” No, I know that works for some people, but that is just not me. But know that you can still be sarcastic and saucy and say four-letter words, and be nice to yourself. For real, I’m proof.

So, once you catch yourself and remind yourself that you don’t think that way anymore, the next thing you do, is think something else that serves you better. And this is the next place where I got really messed up, because this is hard. But let me help you make it easier. Part of the reason I had a really hard time with offering myself new thoughts, was that I didn’t believe them.

I’ve run into this all the time with clients, too. Especially, when it comes to weight loss. Often, they will tell me, “It is impossible for me to lose weight.” If we think through this, and we find evidence that the opposite might be true, and that thinking her current thought is not helpful, then we move forward to choosing a new thought.

It might be something like, “I might be able to lose weight.” And then, she will tell me, “I don’t believe it, because it’s not true.” So, this gives me a really great opportunity to point out something. Is the thought, “It is impossible for me to lose weight,” is that thought, cold hard fact? Is it really true. No, it’s a lie.

Your brain is telling you a lie that is keeping you safe and miserably comfortable. It is also keeping you from taking action to lose weight. So, you’ve got that thought, it is impossible for me to lose weight, which is a lie, then you’re wrestling with another thought, “I might be able to lose weight,” which you also might think is a lie. Maybe you just don’t believe it, yet.

So, what do you do? What do you believe? Do you see you are dealing with two thoughts? One is a lie that is internal. It’s a sentence you have been telling yourself in your head, over and over again, for long enough that it’s a habit. It’s automatic. And even though it’s not true, you’ve practiced it enough that you believe it’s your truth.

The other thought, I might be able to lose weight, is one that you are choosing, that is coming from a different part of your brain; the thinking and planning part of your brain. But it also feels like a lie. And because it’s not hardwired into your brain yet, it feels foreign and it feels external. It feels like it doesn’t belong.

This is so fascinating. Once I understood this concept, it made sense. Your brain is trying to protect you. It is trying to get you to find evidence to prove what you already believe about yourself. Your brain is afraid of change. But here’s the thing; do you want to accept a thought that you know is a lie, the thought, it is impossible for me to lose weight? Do you really want to accept that?

Because if you’ve followed this process and put these steps into action, you did the work and proved the opposite true, and realized thinking this way does not move you forward, do you really want to believe the lie, that it is impossible to lose weight? Or, do you want to believe the new thought, I might be able to lose weight, even though you don’t have any evidence to back it up, yet?

Do you want to believe a new thought that opens you up to possibility, and makes you feel hopeful and empowered, and inspires you to take action to go and prove that new thought true? Which lie do you want to believe? And I say that tongue in cheek, because the second thought really isn’t a lie at all.

So, here it is, that’s what I’m talking about. That’s what I mean, when I say you are deciding to believe your thought. This is not passive; it is very much active. You are not simply letting a new thought like, I might be able to lose weight, float into your brain all loosey goosey; you cannot fake yourself out.

You can’t fake yourself out by saying, “Okay, I’m gonna say these words to myself. But there’s no way in stink, I believe it,” because then it’s just words. Instead, you have to commit to letting go of your old, unhelpful thoughts in exchange for newer, more powerful thoughts, if you want to make great things happen for yourself. That’s how this works. You can’t get awesome results with stinky thoughts, you just can’t.

So, here is the absolute best part of all this. Once you decide to believe, I might be able to lose weight, and really believe it in your core, you go and take action to prove it correct. You make a meal plan for yourself and you follow it. You skip the cupcake tray in your break room.

And those actions will tell your brain, “Hey, maybe that old thought, it’s impossible for me to lose weight, maybe that thought shouldn’t be as loud as it’s been all along.” Instead, the actions you take, help turn up the dial on the newer, kinder, more productive thought, I might be able to lose weight; that thought that you’ve been practicing.

Why does this work? Old thoughts, hate new actions. It totally messes with your brain. But when you’re practicing your thinking, when you decide to believe new thoughts, when you take new action, then you’re onto it. Once you prove yourself right, then you keep doing it, over and over and over again. You get good at what you practice. And this, is thinking on purpose.

This is choosing a thought without direct evidence that it is true, but deciding to believe it enough that you go and take action to prove yourself right. This is legit, straight-up hard work. But right here, this is how you practice thinking. If you practice this, just like French or swimming, you will absolutely blow your mind with what you can accomplish.

Alright, so one last time, the process of practicing your thinking looks like this, okay? You create awareness. You pay attention to the thoughts or the sentences that are scrolling through your brain. You’re being your own observer, and you slow your brain down to get to the negative thoughts.

Once you find that surface level thought like, “I don’t have time to do this,” do the deep dive. Ask, what’s behind that thought, until you get to the real deep level thought that is messing you up. Then ask the questions: Is it true? Or, even better, is there any evidence that the opposite might be true? This is the part where you dispute yourself.

Then ask, if the thought is moving you forward. Most likely, the answer will be no. Then, you have your stopcatch. You can borrow my time out, “You don’t think this way anymore.” There’s your gentle but firm reminder, you’re shaking things up around here.

And remember, you’re doing this from a place kindness. Then, you choose a new thought and you decide to believe it, even if you don’t yet have evidence to back it up. And you do this, in a way that feels real and genuine, not superficial. You are simply choosing to forego the lies and limiting beliefs you’ve been telling yourself, and you’re exchanging them for thoughts that may not feel true, yet. But they open up the possibility of a different outcome.

And then, you take action to prove that new thought correct, so your brain knows that you’re not faking yourself out, and you mean business. And then, you practice. So, what I hope I’ve done for you, is take something that might at first glance, seem a little woo and turn it into a practical skill you can try out for yourself.

I hope you find this helpful, because practicing thinking has totally changed my life and I hope it will change yours, too. Try this out. Practice your thinking. And I will look forward to catching up with you again, next week.

If you like what you’ve been hearing, please review the show. I would love to get your feedback and ideas. Your suggestions have inspired episodes and will help me make the show better for you. And, share this podcast with a friend, text a show link, share a screenshot, or post a link to the show on your social media. And, be sure to tag me @CarrieHollandMD on either Instagram or Facebook, so I can follow along and engage with you.

This is how we get the word out to other working moms who want to feel strong, inside and out. If you know someone who wants to feel better, or eat and move differently, but she is too tired or too busy, it is time to change things up. And you know, making that change starts with how you think. And that, is what we do here on the Strong as a Working Mom podcast. I’ll see you next week.

Thanks for listening to Strong as a Working Mom. If you want more information on how to eat, move, and think, so you can live in the body you want, with the mind to match, visit me at CarrieHollandMD.com.

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